It’s sooo frustrating to be stuck in the blame-you and justify-me mode of life. Blaming someone else for “making” you act a certain way or say something you shouldn’t to justify yourself. I know that I’m in need of a check up from the neck up when I begin to feel frustrated by the way other people are not dealing with their sin issues ( “other people” is code for my husband hehe). Sometimes we even blame the situation, we’ve gotten ourselves into. A situation like locking your keys in the car in front of Walmart with the motor running …. wait… I’ve done that before. The day I locked my keys in the car with the engine running, I had my 4 year-old, 2 year -old, and my elderly Aunt Loretta with me….I was trying to let her out in front of the door so I parked in the fire lane(where else would you want your car locked with the keys in it?) I let my Aunt out, got the kids out and put them in her buggy and somewhere along the way I hit the electric lock, the door swung shut….frustrating. I began to blame the situation instead of taking the blame and telling my family I was sorry.
So instead of defusing the situation with an apology everything escalated. No matter what I did, I couldn’t get in there to turn the car off….it was veeeery frustrating. And of course the car made me mad! I was sooo mad that car had locked itself when I pushed the button. The car actually made me snap at my kids. I know you can’t identify at all….but try to feel the frustration with me for a moment.
As women when things get out of control, we must fix them. And when we can’t we become frustrated and then the blame game begins. We are willing to blame everyone and everything else, so that we still look like we have it together. Trying to fix other people instead of focusing on your own walk and becoming all God’s made you to be is a prescription for frustration and failure. We are all inclined to do it however….the Lord addressed this tendency in the bible.
“Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?
A plank in the eye is a very uncomfortable condition…..especially when you’re trying to remove it by looking elsewhere. Though we may feel vulnerable, it’s time we looked on the inside and realize there are things that need to change for us to become all that God has called us to be.