I have a few people I especially look up to when it comes to leadership. My husband Barry, John Maxwell, and the late John Wooden. My husband is one of the most loyal, faithful men I know. For 26 years he has loved me well; I’ve never had to wonder where he was, who he was with, or if he thought I was the prettiest girl in the room. John Maxwell is a nationally renowned speaker and author, you can click on his link on this blog to learn more about this awesome man. The late John Wooden was the “winningest coach in college basketball” ever. Now, I’m not an athlete…..not at all. But I sit at John Wooden’s feet when it comes to leadership. He was successful on and off the court; faithful to one wife and one faith for his whole life. Supremely successful, forever faithful. I read from a devotional everyday by John Wooden, to help challenge me and keep me on track. Today, I was especially challenged by something he wrote…” The worst thing you can do for someone you love are the things they could and should do for themselves.” He refers to 1 Thessalonians 5:14 ” Brothers and sisters, we urge you to warn those who are lazy. Encourage those who are timid. Take tender care of those who are weak. Be patient with everyone”. As women, we are naturally nurturers. We are loving mothers, sisters, daughters, friends. I don’t know about you but I hate to see those I love in pain. I want to step in, to help ease the pain, to make it easier for them. Many times, I have to tell myself to resist the temptation to make it easier for those I love. Almost nothing good comes easily, or painlessly. When I want to rush in and do something for those I love that they should be doing on their own, I rob them of the lesson or the satisfaction that comes from a hard job well done. I have to play that phrase in my head….”the worst thing I can do” because I love the feelings that come from “saving” my children. I hate to watch them walk through a hard time, when I could fly in and come to the rescue. They would feel so grateful and I would feel so needed and loved….but….sometimes it’s the worst thing I can do for them. I have an empty nest this year and I have to say….it’s not the most fun I’ve ever had. The silence is obnoxiously loud and the time on my hands is beginning to feel like “heavy-lifting”. I would love the chance to be my children’s hero right about now, college is hard. One is in their last semester, one in their first…… but I’ll resist. I’ll resist doing for them what they can and should do for themselves, because I love them more than I love myself. Loving people isn’t usually about doing the easiest thing or the thing that makes you feel best….it’s more about doing the most beneficial thing. John Wooden writes ” I coached my players not to expect time outs during the games and I didn’t want them looking over at the bench for directions….I didn’t want them to need me once the game started”
Lisa has been a women's ministry leader for 15 years and is also a National VP with a major US cosmetics company. She speaks nationally to thousands of women annually, and it is her passion to help them enlarge their dreams, to do their part faithfully and then watch for God to do His!
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